The neuroscience evidence is pretty clear. Children who are nurtured, have secure attachment figures, a safe environment, and access to the creative arts develop the capacity for self-regulation, self-soothing, and secure adult relationships.
Adverse childhood experiences often have a lasting impact on one’s development.
Those most likely to thrive are the children who were nurtured.
There also exists a corrective and restorative potential in positive relationships or experiences today. These corrective emotional/relational experiences have the capacity to change and heal the trauma of the past.
This is one of the reasons why psychotherapy is effective – it provides an experience of a safe, secure, nurturing relationship.